How can I teach my child to channel anger properly?

 How can I teach my child to channel anger properly?

  The key to teaching is communication. You need to communicate clearly to your child and you need to encourage your child to explain and discuss his or her feelings when angry. There are many alternatives, here are just a few constructive possibilities:

1. Draw an angry picture, suggests that your child sit down with crayon and paper and draw picture of anger. Encourage her to be creative to show her anger in any form. If we need some guidance, suggest that she draw a picture of herself and the way she feels, or a picture of the source of our anger, over she feels like doing out of anger.

2. Roar like a lion. This may be startling to you if you are unaware that the child is angry about something, but it's better than destructive behavior.

3. Write a letter that is never sent. Encourage your child to sit down and write a letter to whom ever he is angry with. Let him write anything he wants. This approach has the added benefit of associating verbal expression with anger. Don't ask to see the child's letter; you may be the source of his anger. However, if the child volunteers his letter to you praise him for putting his anger into words.

If a child uses bad language when angered, argue the child to sit down with some paper and pencil anytime he is angry and write down all the bad words we might want to use. When he is finished suggest that he crumple up the paper and throw it away in the trash. Again, do not ask to see the list.

1. Pound on pillows. The child can went her anger my pounding on a pillow or other reason I learnt in animate object. Urge her to go at it really vigorously. This may shorten the life span of whatever you choose for. This exercise by the practice has therapeutic value for venting Angry feelings.

2. Run and play hard. It suggests that that your child release and by using physical exercise as an outlet almost anything that requires a great deal of effort will do the trick suggest running all out or throwing a ball against the wall as hard as possible and then chase it or you could argue the child to go outside and try to push the house over.

3. The point of all this is to attempt to find something that enables a child to dissipate his or her anger. If one choice doesn't seem to work, you can suggest another there are times when a child will say something hurtful to you while learning to handle anger constructively. Remember that children and adults all say things in anger that they really don't mean. Tell your child that you feel hurt the child will learn that just doesn't. Others words can affect him his words can affect another.

Later with everyone's nerves are less in flame and ask your child if his words were an accurate expression of his feelings. Discuss the situation openly and honestly that encourage him to vent his anger and other feelings positively in the future.

Master piece from the book : 'Teach your child that it's OK to be Angry.'

Simple Past/Past Continuous Tense - Activity

Simple Past/Past Continuous Tense - Activity

Fill in the blanks with the correct simple past or past continuous form of the verb in the brackets.

Trouble on the Mountain

Last year, during the vacations, Roy and his family (1)________________ (be) on a holiday when something terrible (2)_________________ (happen). They (3) ______________ (stay) in a chalet high up in the mountains. Each day, they carefully (4)____________________ (plan) a trek in the mountains. They prepared carefully because Roy’s parents knew that mountains could be dangerous. So, they always (5) ____________________(take) four things with them: water, food, a good map and a mobile phone.

Early one morning, Roy and his parents (6) __________________(get) everything ready and (7) ______________________(set) out on their walk. It was a beautiful day and the sun (8)_______________________ (shine) brightly in the clear sky. But as they (9)_____________________ (walk), it (10)  ________________________ (begin) to get darker and darker. Clouds (11) _____________________ (fill) the sky and then a fog suddenly (12) _________________ (fall). The fog got thicker and thicker, and in the end, they couldn’t see the path in front of them. 

Source: Topical Grammar Practice - Scholastic

Answers:

1. Was thinking 2. Walked 3. Were turning / turned 4. Slipped 5.fell 6. Told             7. Was moving 8.heard 9.Found 10. Was                     11.was shining                         12. looked

A Memorable Incident - Reading Comprehension - IELTS/NTS/SAT/CAT Series

A memorable incident

Like all the students who witnessed the incident, I was mildly intrigued but not excited. I looked at the man in the car and then at the man who emerged with the large red box. Both men were dressed in uniform. Apparently they were from a delivery company. I was sure it was a gift for the school; but then again it could be a gift for a member of the staff or even for a student. As the man with the red box seemed sure of where he wanted to go, none of us offered to help them.

As I was standing near the principal’s office, and as is Mr. Tran habit, the door was wide open, I could hear every word of the conversation. I gathered that the delivery man was trying to deliver a box of books - a gift to the school from a writer called Raja something or other. I could hear the wrapping being torn off excitedly. “These are books for primary one children,” I heard Mr.Tran exclaim. “I am not sure my students would like to read about the Little red MRT Train.”

Then I heard the deliveryman say, “Isn’t his Hougang Primary school?” “Oh no!” said Mr.Tran, “This is Hougang Secondary School. Hougang Primary School is further down the road.” “Do you have any scotch tape?” asked the man. Then I heard everyone laugh. Soon the man emerged carrying the red box. I could see the scotch tape pasted all over rather crudely. The man was accompanied by two boys. I saw them all getting into the car quickly and driving off. Later I found out that the two boys had been asked by Mr. Tran to accompany the delivery men and direct them to Hougang Primary School.

Q. Read the given passage carefully and select the most suitable answer from the given choices.

Select the most appropriate synonym of the word ‘intrigued’. Interest Plot charm absorb	6. Name the place where he opened the red box first? Hougang Middle School Hougang Primary School Hougang Secondary School Hougang School of Management
2.  Select the right colour of the mysterious box. Red Blue White Black	7. Who took the delivery man to the right destiny? A boy Two boys Principal Guard
3. Why none of the students helped the delivery man. He didn't ask for help. He reached the right place. He was sure where he want to go. He was asking for the help from Mr.Tran.	8. Which of the following statements is false. The Principal torn the wrap The boys torn the wrap The deliverymen asked for a tape Hougang school is down the road.
3. Why did the delivery man ask for the scotch tape? The gift opened at the right place. The gift opened at the wrong place. The gift was torn by mistake. The gift fell from the bike.	9. Which of the following statement is true. The scotch tape pasted all over crudely. I was not standing near the principal’s office Both men were dressed in casual Mr. Tran accompanied the deliverymen
5. Why were the students not interested in reading the book? The books were for juniors The books were for seniors The books were for teachers The books were for principal	10. According to the passage, what is the most suitable antonym for ‘delivery’. Collection Distribution Hollage  Dispatch

Source: English Language GCE O’Level 2000 - 2013

Answers: 1. a    2.a    3.c    4.b    5.a    6.b    7.b    8.b    9.a    10.a

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Reading Comprehension - Fire - Friend or enemy?

Fire - Friend or enemy?

Fire has been around since creation; in fact it appears that fire had a hand in itself. Therefore, man did not discover fire but, apparently, he discovered its use. Before he discovered its use, he was probably at its mercy. Fires started in nature, by lightening or by the sun, must have terrified early man for centuries when he eked out an existence by gathering fruits and nuts to keep body and soul together. Probably he also ate meat raw. Then one day he discovered that this terrifying thing, which burnt and hurt, could be tamed. Then one by one he must have discovered its marvelous uses. Then fire ceased to be an enemy and became a bosom friend of man.

From then on it was a close friendship. Today we can hardly conceive of life without fire. It cooks our food, it provides warmth and it burns rubbish. Fire plays a major part in our lives from birth till we are cremated. The main blessing that this mysterious friend bestows on us is that it cooks our food. Throughout the world, from highly organized societies to primitive tribes, humans need food. Since it has been discovered that food taste much better when cooked, cooking has evolved over the years so that there are now countless dishes to pamper our palettes. All this is possible only because of fire. 

Yet this great friend can be a dangerous enemy. In its natural state fire can break out at any moment - usually through careless handling - and cause devastating harm. Destruction of lives and property by fire is one of the almost, daily disasters in the world. Not even the most developed countries are exempt from this. All anyone can do is take as many precautions as possible but still prepare to fight it when it occurs. Frequently when fire break out, humans are helpless and great looses occur before the fire are brought under control. 

On another note, man too uses fire for destructive purposes. Most weapons are based on the principles of fire. This applied to simple devices like handguns, to artillery pieces and nuclear bombs. The main destructive element in weapons or at least the trigger is fire based. In this case, it is not fire, which is a danger in itself, but rather because it is used for destructive purposes by us. 

Hence it is clear that fire is both a bosom friend and a deadly enemy. When kept under control it is one of the greatest boons known to humanity; but when out of control or when used for destruction it is a devastating force before which man is helpless. 

Word count: 441 words

Q. Read the given passage carefully and select the most suitable answer from the given choices.

Select the most appropriate synonym of the word ‘raw’. satisfy fresh uncooked unhealed	6. Fire can break out at any moment in its natural state, through careless handling through careful handling through helpful attempt through burning rubbish
2.  Select the most appropriate meaning of the word ‘bestow’. rebuff share gift condolence	7.Fire started in nature by sun air wind water
3. Which of the following statement is true. Fire is a bosom friend and a deadly enemy. Fire keeps everything under control. Fire is not the essential principle of fire Fire helps to wash dishes.	8. Which of the following statements is false. Most weapons are based on the principles of fire.  Fire plays a major part in our lives from birth till we are cremated. Fire has been around since creation. It cooks our food
4. Which of the following use of fire is not listed in the passage. To cook food To burn rubbish To provide warmth To provide fumes	9. According to the passage, which is the essential need of highly organized societies to primitive tribes. Human needs food Human needs burn Human needs fire Human needs warmth
5. According to the passage, which of the following elements is the principle of weapons. Metal Structure Fire Human	10. When the fire becomes a greatest boons to humanity. When it is a devastating force When play with fire When burning rubbish When kept under control

Source: English Language GCE O’Level 2000 - 2013

Answers:

1c

2c

3a

4d

5c

6a

7a

8a

9a

10d

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 Source: English Language GCE O’ Level 2000 - 2013

Fire  - Friend or enemy? 

Fire has been around since creation; in fact, it appears that fire had a hand in itself. Therefore, the man did not discover fire but, apparently, he discovered its use. Before he discovered its use, he was probably at its mercy. Fires started in nature, by lightening or by the sun, must have terrified early man for centuries when he eked out an existence by gathering fruits and nuts to keep body and soul together. Probably he also ate meat raw. Then one day he discovered that this terrifying thing, which burnt and hurt, could be tamed. Then one by one he must have discovered its marvelous uses. Then fire ceased to e an enemy and became a bosom friend of man.

From then on it was a close friendship. Today we can hardly conceive of life without fire. It cooks our food, it provides warmth and it burns rubbish. Fire plays a major part in our lives from birth till we are cremated. The main blessing that this mysterious friend bestows on us is that it cooks our food. Throughout the world, from highly organized societies to primitive tribes, humans need food. Since it has been discovered that food tastes much better when cooked, cooking has evolved over the years so that there are now countless dishes to pamper our palettes. All this is possible only because of fire.

Yet this great friend can be a dangerous enemy. In its natural state fire can break out at any moment - usually through careless handling - and cause devastating harm. Destruction of lives and property by fire is one of the almost, daily disasters in the world. Not even the most developed countries are exempt from this. All anyone can do is take as many precautions as possible but still prepare to fight it when it occurs. Frequently when a fire breaks out, humans are helpless and great losses occur before the fire is brought under control. 

On another note, man too uses fire for destructive purposes. Most weapons are based on the principles of fire. This applied to simple devices like handguns, artillery pieces, and nuclear bombs. The main destructive element in weapons or at least the trigger is fire-based. In this case, it is not fire, which is a danger in itself, but rather because it is used for destructive purposes by us. 

Hence it is clear that fire is both a bosom friend and a deadly enemy. When kept under control it is one of the greatest boons known to humanity, but when out of control or when used for the destruction it is a devastating force before which man is helpless. 

Word count: 441 words
 

Teach your child that it's O.K. to be angry

Teach your child that it's O.K. to be angry

To feel anger is neither good nor bad. It is a normal and legitimate reaction to feeling wronged, whether that wrong is real or imagined. It is what we do with our anger. How we act when we are angry that is important. For example, when we lash out in anger, later we may feel worse in remorse. However, when we discuss our hurt with someone who is understanding, we may feel better. And talking with the person who caused the hurt in the first place may create a stronger bond between you and that person. It is difficult for children to make the distinction between the emotion of anger and what is done with that anger. Nevertheless, a child needs to learn the difference between the two. If we are to separate the two in the child's mind. We parents must communicate the difference. We can teach a child that he or she can feel angry and express that anger, yet not the destructive. In other words, it is O.K. to be angry. but it is not O.K. to behave in a destructive manner out of anger. It is very important to make this distinction with your child. He or she should not be chastised for feeling angry, only for destructive behavior. Eventually the child will learn the difference between feeling`angry and acting out that anger in harmful ways. 

If your child expresses his or her anger destructively, try to respond helpfully, saying. You are entitled to be angry. That's O.K. But I don't want you to hit anyone," or " I don't want you to damage anything, including yourself. Children have a difficult time communicating their emotional reactions because they lack the language needed to translate what they feel into words. Parents should help their children to express verbally what they feel when they are angry. You know your child best. Look for subtle clues of unexpressed anger. Two of the most common signs are pouting or sulking and an "I don't care about anything" attitude. But each child will have his or her own signals. Remember, admitting that he or she feels angry is difficult for a child to do. It will take some time and practice before your child feels comfortable expressing anger verbally. You may have to ask your child a series of questions about why he or she is angry. Tommy and Billy, both four years old, were playing with toy trucks. Soon Tommy's mother heard them fighting. She separated the boys, then sat down to talk to them. 

MOTHER: Tommy, you hit Billy and you know you're not supposed to do that. I can understand you being angry. That's O.K. But it's not O.K. to hit. Tell me what upset you. 

TOMMY: Billy took my truck. It's mine and he can't have it. 

MOTHER: O.K., I see why you were upset, but its still not good to hit someone. You should have told Billy how you felt, instead of hitting him. 

Tommy: He won't listen, no matter what I say. 

MOTHER: How do you know. if you don't even try? And if he didn't, you could have come to me for help. 

TOMMY: I guess so. 

MOTHER: So if Billy makes you angry like that again. you speak up and tell him that you're angry and that you don't want him to do that again. If he doesn't listen to you, then come to me. It's O.K. to be angry. but you are not allowed to hit anyone or do anything destructive. Do you understand? Another approach Tommy's mother might use to encourage an appropriate reaction to anger would be to remind him of a time when he made her angry. She could remind Tommy that she talked with hint about her feelings and didn't hit hint. Before we attempt to teach our children to deal properly with their anger. we need to look at ourselves and evaluate the ways we cope with anger. Our behavior serves as a model for our children's actions. Children are great imitators. Ask yourself what your child may be learning about expressing anger from the way you deal with a difficult situation. Let's look at an example of a parent's anger, in a situation where hat anger is caused by the child's actions. 

Terry is eight and loves his collection of toy cars. lie prefers to play with his cars in the bathroom. because he likes the noise they make when he runs them across the tiled flour. Terry is careless about picking up his cars from the bathroom floor. f !is mother has warned hint that leaving them there could be very dangerous if someone were to step on them. One day Terry's mother went into the bathroom in her bare feet and narrowly missed stepping on one of the cars. Her first reaction. in the heat of anger. was to break the toy. Loss of the car would be a lesson to Terry. Every parent has this experience at least once, and it is often difficult to resist the destructive urge. It is no easier for a child. Terry's mother stopped just as she was about to crush the toy. She asked herself. "What kind of message would I send to Terry by breaking his toy?' Terry would be in tears. and his mother would reg.ret her action. Terry might learn a powerful lesson about leaving his toys where they weren't supposed to be. but his mother recognized that, more important. Terry would get the message that since his mother responded destructively to her anger. perhaps it wasn't all that bad for him to do the same. She couldn't very well expect Terry to "Do as I say, not as I do." Explaining that children and adults don't have to follow the same rules often creates strong resentment in children and makes them see adults as hypocrites. Instead of breaking the car, Terry's mother picked up the toy, confronted him with the evidence of his misdeed, and told him that. as a consequence, she was going to keep the toy away from him for one week. Terry protested loudly. but he got the message. An important thing for parents to remember is that their behavior in such situations must be as consistent as possible. The parent must deal with each incident in the same way, and both parents must react appropriately, if they expect their child to learn and understand. And remember to assure the child that you still love him or her, despite the anger. 

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