Adopt a Child Through the Mail

‘While I don't want to  turn this book into an advertisement for service agencies, I do have to say that my experience of adopting children through the mail has been extremely positive. No, you don’t actually adopt a child, but you do get to help out while, at the same time, getting to know them. The experience has brought tremendous joy and satisfaction to my entire family. My six year old daughter has an adoptee, and has enjoyed and learned from the experience a great deal. My daughter and her pal regularly write to each other, and draw pictures that we hang up. They enjoy hearing about each other’s lives. 

Each month you contribute a very small amount of money to the agency in charge of helping the children. The money is used to help the children and their parents with the necessities of life, which makes sending the children to school and caring for their needs a little easier. 

I think that the reason we enjoy this type of giving so much is that it’s interactive. So often, when you give to a charity, you have no way of knowing who you are helping. In this instance, you not only get to know who, but you have the privilege of getting to know them as well. Also, the regularity of the ongoing relationship reminds you how fortunate you are to be in a position to help. For me and for many people that I know, this type of giving brings forth feelings of gratitude. There are many fine agencies to choose from, but my personal favourite is CHildren Inc., out of Richmond, Virginia, (800) 538-5381.’

Book: Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

Author: Richard Carlson

Top 4 Working Habits of Successful People

Charles Evans Hughes, former Chief Justice of the United States Supreme Court, said: "Men do not die from overwork. They die from dissipation and worry." 

Good Working Habit #01: Clear Your Desk

Roland L. Williams, President of Chicago and North-western Railway, says, "A person with his desk piled high with papers on various matters will find his work much easier and more accurate if he clears that desk of all but the immediate problem on hand. I call this good house-keeping, and it is the number-one step toward efficiency." If you visit the Library of Congress Washington, D. C., you will find five words painted on the ceiling—five words written by the poet Pope:

 "Order is Heaven's first law." 

Good Working Habit#02: Follow the sequence

Charles Luckman, the lad who started from the scratch and climbed in twelve years to president of the Pepsodent Company, got a salary of a hundred dollars a year, and made a million dollars besides - that lad declares that he owes much of his success to developing the two abilities that Henry L. Doherty said he found almost impossible to find. Charles Luckman said, “As far back as I remember, I have gotten up at 5 O’clock in the morning because I can think better then than any other time - I can think better then and plan my day, plan to do things in the order of their importance.”

Frank Bettger, one of the America;s most successful insurance salesmen, doesn’t wait until five O’clock in the morning to plan his day. He plans it the night before - sets a goal for himself  - a goal to sell a certain amount of insurance that day. If he fails, that amount is added to the next day - and so on.

Good Working Habit No.3: Be a powerful decision-maker

 

When you face a problem, solve it then and there if you have the facts necessary to make a decision. Don't keep putting off decision.

One of my former students, the late H.P. Howell, told me that when he was a member of the board of directors of US Steel, the meetings of the board were often long-drawn-out affairs - many problems were discussed, few decisions were made. The result : each member of the board had to carry home bundles of report to study. 

Finally, Mr. Howell persuaded the board of directors to take up one problem at a time and come to a decision. No procrastination - no putting off. The decision might be to ask for additional facts; it might be to do something or do nothing. But a decision was reached on each problem before passing on to the next. Mr. Howell told me that the results were striking and salutary: the docket was cleared. The calendar was clean. No longer it was necessary for each member to carry home a bundle of reports. No longer was there a worried sense of unresolved problems. 

 

The calendar was clean. No longer was it necessary for each member to carry home a bundle of reports. No longer was there a worried sense of unresolved problems. A good rule, not only for the board of directors of U. S. Steel, but for you and me.

A good rule not only for the board of directors of U.S> Steel, but for you and me.

 

Good Working Habit #04: Learn to Organize, Deputize, and Supervise

Many a businessman is driving himself to a premature grave because he has never learned to delegate responsibility to others, insists on doing everything himself. Result: details and confusion overwhelm him. He is driven by a sense of hurry, worry, anxiety, and tension. It is hard to learn to delegate responsibilities. I know. It was hard for me, awfully hard. I also know from experience the disasters that can be caused by delegating authority to the wrong people. But difficult as it is to delegate authority, the executive most do it if he is to avoid worry, tension, and fatigue. The man who builds up a big business, and doesn't learn to organize, deputize, and supervise, usually pops off with heart trouble in his fifties or early sixties—heart trouble caused by tension and worries. Want a specific instance? Look at the death notices in your local paper. 

How can I teach my child to channel anger properly?

 How can I teach my child to channel anger properly?

  The key to teaching is communication. You need to communicate clearly to your child and you need to encourage your child to explain and discuss his or her feelings when angry. There are many alternatives, here are just a few constructive possibilities:

1. Draw an angry picture, suggests that your child sit down with crayon and paper and draw picture of anger. Encourage her to be creative to show her anger in any form. If we need some guidance, suggest that she draw a picture of herself and the way she feels, or a picture of the source of our anger, over she feels like doing out of anger.

2. Roar like a lion. This may be startling to you if you are unaware that the child is angry about something, but it's better than destructive behavior.

3. Write a letter that is never sent. Encourage your child to sit down and write a letter to whom ever he is angry with. Let him write anything he wants. This approach has the added benefit of associating verbal expression with anger. Don't ask to see the child's letter; you may be the source of his anger. However, if the child volunteers his letter to you praise him for putting his anger into words.

If a child uses bad language when angered, argue the child to sit down with some paper and pencil anytime he is angry and write down all the bad words we might want to use. When he is finished suggest that he crumple up the paper and throw it away in the trash. Again, do not ask to see the list.

1. Pound on pillows. The child can went her anger my pounding on a pillow or other reason I learnt in animate object. Urge her to go at it really vigorously. This may shorten the life span of whatever you choose for. This exercise by the practice has therapeutic value for venting Angry feelings.

2. Run and play hard. It suggests that that your child release and by using physical exercise as an outlet almost anything that requires a great deal of effort will do the trick suggest running all out or throwing a ball against the wall as hard as possible and then chase it or you could argue the child to go outside and try to push the house over.

3. The point of all this is to attempt to find something that enables a child to dissipate his or her anger. If one choice doesn't seem to work, you can suggest another there are times when a child will say something hurtful to you while learning to handle anger constructively. Remember that children and adults all say things in anger that they really don't mean. Tell your child that you feel hurt the child will learn that just doesn't. Others words can affect him his words can affect another.

Later with everyone's nerves are less in flame and ask your child if his words were an accurate expression of his feelings. Discuss the situation openly and honestly that encourage him to vent his anger and other feelings positively in the future.

Master piece from the book : 'Teach your child that it's OK to be Angry.'

Teach your child that it's O.K. to be angry

Teach your child that it's O.K. to be angry

To feel anger is neither good nor bad. It is a normal and legitimate reaction to feeling wronged, whether that wrong is real or imagined. It is what we do with our anger. How we act when we are angry that is important. For example, when we lash out in anger, later we may feel worse in remorse. However, when we discuss our hurt with someone who is understanding, we may feel better. And talking with the person who caused the hurt in the first place may create a stronger bond between you and that person. It is difficult for children to make the distinction between the emotion of anger and what is done with that anger. Nevertheless, a child needs to learn the difference between the two. If we are to separate the two in the child's mind. We parents must communicate the difference. We can teach a child that he or she can feel angry and express that anger, yet not the destructive. In other words, it is O.K. to be angry. but it is not O.K. to behave in a destructive manner out of anger. It is very important to make this distinction with your child. He or she should not be chastised for feeling angry, only for destructive behavior. Eventually the child will learn the difference between feeling`angry and acting out that anger in harmful ways. 

If your child expresses his or her anger destructively, try to respond helpfully, saying. You are entitled to be angry. That's O.K. But I don't want you to hit anyone," or " I don't want you to damage anything, including yourself. Children have a difficult time communicating their emotional reactions because they lack the language needed to translate what they feel into words. Parents should help their children to express verbally what they feel when they are angry. You know your child best. Look for subtle clues of unexpressed anger. Two of the most common signs are pouting or sulking and an "I don't care about anything" attitude. But each child will have his or her own signals. Remember, admitting that he or she feels angry is difficult for a child to do. It will take some time and practice before your child feels comfortable expressing anger verbally. You may have to ask your child a series of questions about why he or she is angry. Tommy and Billy, both four years old, were playing with toy trucks. Soon Tommy's mother heard them fighting. She separated the boys, then sat down to talk to them. 

MOTHER: Tommy, you hit Billy and you know you're not supposed to do that. I can understand you being angry. That's O.K. But it's not O.K. to hit. Tell me what upset you. 

TOMMY: Billy took my truck. It's mine and he can't have it. 

MOTHER: O.K., I see why you were upset, but its still not good to hit someone. You should have told Billy how you felt, instead of hitting him. 

Tommy: He won't listen, no matter what I say. 

MOTHER: How do you know. if you don't even try? And if he didn't, you could have come to me for help. 

TOMMY: I guess so. 

MOTHER: So if Billy makes you angry like that again. you speak up and tell him that you're angry and that you don't want him to do that again. If he doesn't listen to you, then come to me. It's O.K. to be angry. but you are not allowed to hit anyone or do anything destructive. Do you understand? Another approach Tommy's mother might use to encourage an appropriate reaction to anger would be to remind him of a time when he made her angry. She could remind Tommy that she talked with hint about her feelings and didn't hit hint. Before we attempt to teach our children to deal properly with their anger. we need to look at ourselves and evaluate the ways we cope with anger. Our behavior serves as a model for our children's actions. Children are great imitators. Ask yourself what your child may be learning about expressing anger from the way you deal with a difficult situation. Let's look at an example of a parent's anger, in a situation where hat anger is caused by the child's actions. 

Terry is eight and loves his collection of toy cars. lie prefers to play with his cars in the bathroom. because he likes the noise they make when he runs them across the tiled flour. Terry is careless about picking up his cars from the bathroom floor. f !is mother has warned hint that leaving them there could be very dangerous if someone were to step on them. One day Terry's mother went into the bathroom in her bare feet and narrowly missed stepping on one of the cars. Her first reaction. in the heat of anger. was to break the toy. Loss of the car would be a lesson to Terry. Every parent has this experience at least once, and it is often difficult to resist the destructive urge. It is no easier for a child. Terry's mother stopped just as she was about to crush the toy. She asked herself. "What kind of message would I send to Terry by breaking his toy?' Terry would be in tears. and his mother would reg.ret her action. Terry might learn a powerful lesson about leaving his toys where they weren't supposed to be. but his mother recognized that, more important. Terry would get the message that since his mother responded destructively to her anger. perhaps it wasn't all that bad for him to do the same. She couldn't very well expect Terry to "Do as I say, not as I do." Explaining that children and adults don't have to follow the same rules often creates strong resentment in children and makes them see adults as hypocrites. Instead of breaking the car, Terry's mother picked up the toy, confronted him with the evidence of his misdeed, and told him that. as a consequence, she was going to keep the toy away from him for one week. Terry protested loudly. but he got the message. An important thing for parents to remember is that their behavior in such situations must be as consistent as possible. The parent must deal with each incident in the same way, and both parents must react appropriately, if they expect their child to learn and understand. And remember to assure the child that you still love him or her, despite the anger. 

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Discovering Parent as a Teacher

A child starts to absorb from the moment he or she is born. And it is from the parents that a child inherits most of the information. A parent possesses multiple roles in a child’s life. One of the most important is to nurture a loving, stimulating and positive learning environment in which as a parent you can monitor his/her appropriate mental and physical growth. This blog shares the 6 best skimmed skills taken from one of the favorite authors on baby and childcare and a very famous Yorkshire Television presenter,  Dr.Miriam Stoppard’s book, ‘Discover Your Child’s True Potential’. They will enable you as a parent how to instill an enjoying and encouraging environment for your child.

1.     Avoid Traps:

She says in her book, ‘Never pursue perfection as this will lead to frustration both to you and to your child and you will end up with an unhappy, demoralized child who simply cannot thrive and develop well. ’ Try to encourage every single accomplishment and success your child approaches each time.

Avoid Over-indulgence:

Though as a parent, you always have a positive intention for your child but consistent pampering and over-protecting can keep him/her dependent and he might end up feeling as a helpless victim.

Let’s Do Things:

Parent as a teacher needs to come in ground and actually have to come into an action. A child learns better through examples until 8 years. Instead of interrupting and instructing them, join in your child during his/her play time. Instead of instructing them to put the toys back to the place, hold the hand, sit together and make cleaning as a part of fun for them. Your little gestures of fantasy, humor, games or of jokes sticks long way in your child’s mind.

Keep Repeating:

     A young child is full of energy and can’t sit calmly while eating, playing or waiting for anything.  To stable his/her mind body co-ordination, keep repeating certain messages, such as, “We do not swing our legs while we are eating”, this can be done sometimes for months too.

Share Positive Examples:

Try to state or give examples of positive gestures sometimes through discussion or sometimes by performing it to them. You may ask your child to pat his/her pet and show him/her how to do it, and then hold his/her hand and move it gently. Avoid shrieking, as it communicates displeasure and an infant’s mind absorbs your gesture more than your words. However, this is not the case with school going child where he can understand the actions accompanied by the words. To give your child a clear picture of actions tries to make them funny and dramatic. `Instead of scolding or instructing, “Do not slam the door when you come in!” Stand beside the door open it for him/her and then told that this is how we close the door, ‘gently and quietly’.

Give Proper Attention:

A child has a sensitive nature and needs pure attention without distraction. Sometimes he/she either will drag you to play, run or take hold of your hand or clothes in order to attract your attention. A child only feels that she is being listened to if you make eye contact and stop what you are doing in order to listen. And this is how you must treat them. If you do this from the very early age, your child will feel confident enough that his/her voice is not being unheard and it inculcates the source of respect inside him/her as an individual.

Always remember that discipline a child is impossible as he/she does not have the intellectual power to distinguish between right and wrong. Up to the age of three, your baby’s will changes from an instinct to an urge, then to a desire and finally to a motive.

What Writing Piece? Articles VS Blog Posts

Articles and blogging (blog posts) are not the same things but sometimes used interchangeably. 

Let's see what are the differences between an article and a blog post?

An article:

1. An article is made in any traditional or digital publication and has nothing to do with reverse chronological order.

2. An article conveys information, facts, news and written in a straightforward, objective tone.

3. An article is usually written in third-person, and don’t encourage readers to participate.

4. An article tends to explore a topic in more depth.

5. An article is written with clear and structured sentences.

A blog post
1. A blog post is made in a blog in reverse chronological order.

2. It is written in the first person and sometimes personal in nature.

3. A blog post invites readers to comment, participate, get involved.

4. Blog posts are in an informal language and may also use short paragraphs.

5. Blog posts may focus on evolving ideas.

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