Isn't it curious how you automatically begin to feel more comfortable, the moment you realise you have choices? But you can’t easily replace your boss.
It may be difficult to accept this while you’re locked into a strict work routine, but you always have choices - especially when it comes to feeling calm and satisfied about your work.
These choices can change the way you look at work and your life - and so become calm.
A philosophy creeps by many religions that work is the purest form of devotion to God. The familiar belief also describes the work ethics. Most reasonable people believe that doing work is a basic human right, which is essential for their materialistic needs, and also for their self-esteem. A sensible, productive philosophy for most people to follow as they work their way through life is a paternalistic, employer - serving construct that encourages a slavish commitment to harder work and longer hours. This drone-like behavior affects the entire workplace especially to the entitled workers, ‘good-workers’.
The employers perceive this commitment would surely result in increased job satisfaction and security ? Quite the opposite.
If you have a tendency to worry about work and to take it too seriously, far better to challenge yourself is to believe in and what you believe you want from your work, then to make your commitments. When you are working towards goals that you define and believe in, you will be more calm about your work.
To feel calm and content about the work, first,determine your life’s priorities. Is your work so important to your self-worth? Are your relationships more important than your work? Do you want to rise to the top in your occupation? Do you want to meet people? Do you want to save enough to go travelling for the rest of your days?
This simple technique will make your life easier. You may discover that work priorities - money, position, success - are at the top of your list. If so, you can make the choice that you’re going to succeed in your work at all costs, determined that only failure will cause you stress.
Conversely, you may decide that family or relationship priorities are at the top of your list. Then you won’t lose sleep over petty things that happen during your day. At the risk of oversimplifying, you have 2 choices when it comes to stressful conditions or circumstances:
i. you can change the things that can cause you stress
ii. You can change the way you look at them.
Many practitioners in the stress-management industry are concentrating on to change the workplace such as: modifying management attitudes, redefining work responsibilities, empowering employees. While these are fine ideals,they are limited by the fact that they are ideals. But these are the structural changes that may be impossible or very slow for you to implement.
Changing the circumstances that cause you stress is seldom easy if you make it a key to remember that you can’t easily replace your boss or you may not want to transfer to another city. You will definitely find it difficult to become a computer programmer when you have been trained as a typist. It may not be wise to walkout on a well-paying job because your immediate superior doesn't like you.
Your most practical choice is not to try to change the circumstances, but to change the way you view them. I will not pretend it is easy to change the long standing habits and attitudes but you can transform yourself from a victim of stress into a calm person - not by trying to change the stressors in your work life, but changing how you perceive them.
Advised from the book, “Calm at Work” by Paul Wilson
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